I can’t imagine Demi Moore any other way. Can you?
Am I too old to wear long hair? It’s like asking me my age–completely inappropriate. But because nothing is off limits here I will reveal my age in a minute. First, the issue of long locks. The debate about whether it’s socially acceptable for women to wear long hair after they turn forty. This question evokes a strong emotional response in me.
Look, I’ll admit, I have more than two years to go before turning forty. But, I can already tell you that I have absolutely NO INTENTION of cutting my hair when the big 4-0 rolls around. I love wearing my hair long. Long as in past my bra strap long. Long as in it takes more than five minutes to braid my hair long. Long as in I’m the only mom at PTA meetings who isn’t wearing the trendy Jennifer Anniston layered haircut.
I don’t know why I’m so bent on clinging to my hair. Perhaps it has to do with the time my mom cut eight inches off in junior high. I probably never recovered from that traumatizing experience. Even so, there are dozens of reasons women past a ‘certain age’ choose to wear their hair long. Remember age is relative. It’s just a number. Therefore, age shouldn’t be considered a factor when it comes to hair length. Let’s dispel a few myths about long hair after forty:
Synonymous with rebellion. Oh, you’re a mom now . . . Oh, you got promoted as head partner and can’t afford to lose professional credibility. Better cut those locks or run the risk of ‘appearing’ rebellious. Uh, not so fast. Just because a woman of a certain age has long hair, doesn’t mean she’s ‘acting out’ or trying to be defiant. You might be surprised to learn she’s actually a functioning citizen of society.
Stuck in the wrong ERA. Long hair is dated. It looks unkempt and unruly. What wrong with her? Is she trying to be a modern day hippie? Um, the answer is probably ‘no.’ Though if you asked me, I wouldn’t be offended in the least. I’m convinced I grew up in the wrong era. I dreamed of becoming one of Charlie’s Angels. Farrah Fawcett was legendary in my mind. Maybe her signature hairstyle is the reason I refuse to purchase a straightening iron. A few pumps of Bumble and Bumble surf spray, and I get the beachy, wind blown, 1970′s hair I’m after.
Men DON’T like long hair. Hmm . . . let’s just say this isn’t entirely true. In fact, I think most men find long hair sexy. Of course, they like running their fingers through a silky mane. Of course, they like waking up to tousled bed hair in the morning. And yes, of course, men find short hair sexy too. It really depends on the man you’re asking.
Whatever the case, whatever you believe is or isn’t true, I’m sure we can agree that this unwritten rule about age appropriate hair length is ridiculous! If a woman looks great with long hair, then there’s no reason to cut it in her 40′s, 50′s, or 60′s. Every woman should wear her hair how she prefers–however she feels most comfortable. “To thine own self be true,” right?
Well, let’s hear it. Do you think women should cut their hair after a certain age?
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OK, so the men met and voted me as their spokesman, and we agreed: DON’T CUT YOUR HAIR! I’m sorry, was I shouting? Please forgive me. Let me say I couldn’t agree more with you that cutting or not cutting your hair should have nothing to do with “appropriateness” and everything to do with what makes you feel good about yourself. And all us men agree you would feel better about yourself if you don’t cut your hair. When my wife and I get up in the morning, I take care of making breakfast, ironing any clothes needed, and making sure the kids stay on track for school. Why? Aside from the fact that I have the “Dad” voice, I know it takes my wife extra time to get ready because of her long hair, which is about to the small of her back. Giving her time to get ready without feeling rushed is the least I can do for the effort she puts into her hair — which I know partially is because of me. And for all the reasons you described above — waking up to it all tossed, running my fingers through it, and… other things. Long hair isn’t a matter of age appropriateness. Besides, isn’t it more satisfying sometimes to be inappropriate?
Posted by Ned's Blog | February 28, 2013, 6:33 amGood job, Ned! I’m sure your wife totally appreciates extra time to get ready. I am always the last person to get ready in my household. And by get ready, I mean wash my face, brush my teeth, smack on some gloss, and I’m out the door. I’ve mastered the art of getting ready in just ten minutes. As for not cutting the long locks, my husband couldn’t agree more with your mantra, “DON’T CUT YOUR HAIR!” He thinks women look attractive with longer hair too. Perhaps that’s another reason I’m not inclined to chop it off! Gotta keep my guy happy!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:10 amI know he will much appreciate that. Even as a kid, I was more of a “Daphne” from Scooby-Doo guy than I was a “Jane Jetson” guy. Even back then, I think it was the hair…
Posted by Ned's Blog | February 28, 2013, 11:02 amLet’s not even get started on the Disney Princesses . . . talk about long hair!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 12:26 pmHahaha! Ya, I think we know where Disney’s animation department stands on the issue!
Posted by Ned's Blog | February 28, 2013, 12:29 pmI think hair should be worn according to the person under it and how they like it. I used to have hair so long I could sit on it. I would wash it, braid it, and it would still be wet when I unbraided.
Then my babies kept getting wrapped up in it. Now I like the short and spiky. Even when it’s messy it now looks like it’s supposed to. 
Posted by Chatter Master | February 28, 2013, 6:35 amColleen, I can’t believe you used to have such long hair! Your kids probably had a field day playing with your tresses. I’m sure it got tugged on quite a bit. But, you’re absolutely right. Hair should be worn exactly how each woman feels most comfortable. As for your current hairstyle, I couldn’t imagine you any other way. I love it!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:12 amI had step daughters who would spend much much time brushing it. My little ones loved to grab it but when they got tangled they didn’t love it so much.
My current “do” is fun and has been with me for quite some time. It does seem to like my head.
Posted by Chatter Master | February 28, 2013, 3:40 pmas someone who just this week turned 42 (sob, gasp!) I can tell you I have never questioned whether or not my long hair is not okay (and it may be longer now than it was in my teens and 20′s). I have on the other hand, realized that i can’t wear skirts as short as I used to though!
Posted by Barbara @ Just Another Manic Mommy | February 28, 2013, 6:38 amIf that’s how you look at 42, you definitely shouldn’t be sobbing. You look great, Barbara! Glad to hear that I’m not the only woman who wants to hold on to her locks. As for the short skirts, just another brutal reality about aging isn’t it!?
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:18 amI LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (and yes it is brutal!)
Posted by Barbara @ Just Another Manic Mommy | February 28, 2013, 8:19 amPersonally, I don’t look great with short hair. I tried that once and it was a hot mess. I think everyone should do what comes naturally to them and makes them happy.
Posted by Teeny Bikini | February 28, 2013, 6:53 amI hear you on the short hair trauma. It only happened to me once in junior high and I don’t think I fully recovered. But, like you said, it’s really an individual preference. The only person you should make happy when looking in the mirror is you, right?
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:15 amI definitely prefer long hair, and I’m a thirty-something man… behind the mask I wear.
FM
Posted by Frivolous Monsters | February 28, 2013, 7:14 amI figured men in this age demographic probably preferred longer hair. Thanks for confirming my opinion, FM!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:20 amthere are long hair gals and short hair gals and every thing in between. be who you are, regardless of your age. that’s how we all look our best.
Posted by icescreammama | February 28, 2013, 7:15 amYou’re right. Hairstyles are kind of like ice cream. There are dozens of flavors at your disposal. It truly just depends on personal preference and what makes that particular woman feel most yummy!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:22 amThere is nothing wrong with long hair at 40! or 50! or 60! It’s a part of you and wear how you want to wear it.
Posted by When the Kids Go To Bed | February 28, 2013, 7:17 amI absolutely agree! Age should not be a factor when it comes to determining hair length. It’s seems a bit discriminatory. As if becoming a mother suddenly requires you to chop off your locks to your chin . . . kind of silly if you ask me!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:25 amWell, I am turning 43 this year and I like to keep my hair super long. That being said, I just had it cut last week. I had about five inches taken off, so it’s still considered “long” but shoulder length now. I think long hair looks great at any age. I really do. I knew a women who had beautiful long gray hair and she looked amazing. Still, I get sick of dealing with taking care of my hair so I know the older I get, the shorter it’ll get.
Posted by She's a Maineiac | February 28, 2013, 7:19 amFive inches taken off? And you’re not sobbing in your pillow? Oh, I’m definitely not there yet. I can’t bear entertaining such thoughts. I think if I ever get that sick of dealing with long locks, I’ll just wrap my hair up in a bun. Keep it all there, securely fastened on the top of my head!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:33 amLong hair is lovely and men love it, I am one of the few at the school gate with anything past my shoulders, I have always thought mum cuts to be I’ll advised. Now I am wondering.. Dip dyed hair in a bold funky colour past forty probably oh so wrong but I am pretty sure I don’t care
Posted by faydanamyjake | February 28, 2013, 7:27 amYour dip dyed hair sounds right up my alley. Recently, I’ve fallen in love with the ombre hairstyle- the gradual fading out of dark hair color to a much lighter hue. And as far as what other people think, I’m with you. Not too concerned!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:36 amStill getting up the guts to dye it
yes the gradual shaded dip does look fun but still classy 
Posted by faydanamyjake | February 28, 2013, 9:56 amI’m planning to keep my hair long until I get tired of it. Then I cut it and get tired of short hair and let it grow again. It’s a cycle with me. I’ve always loved long hair but my husband prefers short hair, which I must say looks better on him.
Posted by muddledmom | February 28, 2013, 7:35 amKaren, I think it’s interesting that your husband prefers shorter hair. One of the first things I noticed about your gravatar was your long beautiful hair. So, yeah, maybe your hubby can just learn to appreciate his own short hair for the time being!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 8:42 amWhen I was in high school, all the boys loved my long hair. My husband was the first guy I met who liked short hair and I didn’t know what to think. I certainly cut my hair! It felt liberating to not be expected to have long hair finally. But I really do prefer it and it may be because early on, I felt like some people associated long hair with beauty.
Posted by muddledmom | February 28, 2013, 10:31 amI love women with long hair. It is very sexy…! Women should just do what they want regardless of what society thinks. History proves, it is a psychological fact that … society has, ‘below average intelligence’ and gets worse as the numbers increase. Be sexy. The world needs more beauty. More inspirations to look to. Women… please own your power. You’ll probably wield it far better than than men have over the past thousand or so years… you have better hearts. Generally. Men can re-learn. Open up. Have compassion. I have. Its just most have become lazy resting on the laurels of, ‘we’re in charge here.’ But back to the hair question. Yes, Long hair… totally. Rule the world. With a good heart!
Posted by Boo-Dah-Beli | February 28, 2013, 9:25 amYes, we could all use more inspiration indeed. I think you summed it up beautifully with your last sentence, “Rule the world with a good heart.” There is no truer statement. I once heard a similar saying, “beauty and charm can be deceptive but a kind heart is ever-lasting.” Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject. Always good to hear from you!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 7:17 pmPreach it girl! I prefer long hair on myself, not sure why. I cut it short last summer and it was fun for a while but I’m over it.
Posted by Jill Pinnella Corso | February 28, 2013, 9:48 amI don’t know why this issue gets me so fired up. Maybe it’s because forty is around the corner and I refuse to pass such a milestone with short hair. Who made these unwritten rules about age and appropriate hair length up anyway? I’m thinking it dates back to the stone ages.
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 12:39 pmI love this post! I like my long hair, but sometimes I cut it a bit more than usual only to hope that it will grow long again
About this “no long hair after 40″: I guess that for some women it’s around that age that hair get a bit thinner (hormones…) and doesn’t look that good anymore. I think it’s a question of aesthetics. But if your hair is beautiful: don’t cut it!!!!
Posted by expatsincebirth | February 28, 2013, 10:38 amYou bring up a very good point, Ute. The texture and health of a woman’s hair changes dramatically after giving birth. As such, it’s not always possible for women to maintain healthy lustrous locks. All this talk about thinning hair makes me want to dip my hair in argon or coconut oil. I’ve heard these natural oils are a great source of nourishment to frayed ends. I’m thinking my hair could use a drink about now!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 6:43 pmI dunno who said that, but they must have been over 40 and saw a gorgeous woman with long hair, who was also over 40, and hence made a rule so they could feel less insecure. Does that theory sound ridiculous? Maybe. But so does the idea that a woman over 40 shouldn’t have long hair. I love long hair and will where it long for as long as I can.
Posted by cristinacole23 | February 28, 2013, 10:53 amCristina, I like your theory on long hair over forty. It doesn’t sound too far off base. Insecurity and jealousy can cause all sorts of strangeness to manifest in a person’s life. I say do whatever makes you feel happy and MOST beautiful. Live for an audience of one!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 12:43 pmKeep your hair long — it is a sign of youth and vitality! And at the risk of sounding like an Internet stalker, judging from your photo you have no need to choose a short hair style for many years to come.
Posted by All Seasons Cyclist | February 28, 2013, 11:14 amThanks for the advice! I’ll take it and hopefully apply it for many years to come. This means I better continue to load up on food that’s rich in omega 3′s like salmon and walnuts!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 12:36 pmYou have such gorgeous hair! I love my hair long, or at least I used to…it’s getting so thin and dry as I get older. I used to have extra time on my hands for hot oil treatments and such but lately I feel accomplished if I just have time to brush it! The winter really does a number on my hair too! Don’t cut your hair…and yes I had plenty of those traumatizing haircuts my Mom made me get as well! You just never get over those when there is plain proof in those childhood pictures!!
Posted by motherhoodisanart | February 28, 2013, 12:13 pmMelissa, I don’t have time for hot oil treatments either. But, I do try to load up on good fats and foods rich in protein–nuts, salmon, and avocados. As for traumatizing haircuts, I’m sorry to hear that you’re in recovery too. I completely forgot about the childhood photos–there’s no way of masking a terrible bowl haircut in those pics!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 12:48 pmI have yet to meet a man who doesn’t like long hair. Granted, I don’t meet many men these days, but still…
I, too, have long hair. It’s to the point where if I wanted to take that sexy nude shot of just me and my hair, the locks would cover the girls and it’d be all good. I think longer hair is EASIER to style and I certainly don’t think that it belongs on only 20-somethings. I joke with people that I’m a hippie because I do feel free with my hair swinging, but I don’t look at every long-haired lady and think “The 60s called; they want their hair back!” I believe our boy Lenny believes, as I do, there’s a lot of energy stored in our locks. And I’m quite happy with my current vibe
Posted by whencrazymeetsexhaustion | February 28, 2013, 12:15 pmStephanie, I’m getting a visual . . . long sexy blonde hair gracing your shoulders. I’m thinking I could style a photo shoot for an upcoming book or something–”Motherhood, and all its Naked Glory!” And yes, our boy Lenny, has certainly tapped into that untamed energy. Let’s not even get started on Bob Marley . . . a true poster boy for freedom of all mankind!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 12:33 pmOooh I’m liking this! So we’ll get Damian Marley and Lenny to pose beside my bottled blonde hair
Posted by whencrazymeetsexhaustion | February 28, 2013, 12:46 pmWhy not? Every mother could use an extra hand. Lenny could hold the diaper bag for you and Damian . . . hmmm. He could hold the fish crackers.
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 12:51 pmGreat blog post! I’ll save it in the case that I’ll ever consider cutting my hair:) In Denmark 30 also seems to be the big “cut-your-hair”-corner, but fortunately, I have a lot of long-haired friends, so I don’t have to feel like I’m the only long-haired anachronism walking around:)
Posted by Mitzie Mee | February 28, 2013, 12:26 pmInteresting that thirty is the age cut off for short hair in Denmark as well. Happy to hear that you and your girlfriends are defying the odds and showcasing your long tresses instead. Plus, your hair is absolutely gorgeous! It looks super shiny in every photo on your blog!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 6:59 pmYour hair should be worn the way YOU like it. Period. Personally, as a member of the superior man-flu species, I really like long hair provided it is clean…
Posted by Mustang.Koji | February 28, 2013, 2:34 pmAs a superior man-flu species, I applaud you for your preference in long hair. And yes, clean is ALWAYS good. I can’t begin to imagine long tresses any other way. Sort of ruins the image for me!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 6:53 pmI say if you can wear it long .. go for it. I can’t wear mine short – it’s naturally curly so short hair = no weight = poofball. I look like a poodle on ‘roids. Not very attractive.
I’ll wear it at least shoulder length until I can’t manage it anymore. After that maybe I’ll have wigs
MJ
Posted by emjayandthem | February 28, 2013, 5:21 pmMJ, it sounds like you know what works BEST for your hair! I got a good giggle out of the “poodle on roids” image! Speaking of curly hair, I always fantasized what it would be like to have curls. I even attempted several perms in high school and nothing took. Sadly, my hair is super straight. That’s why I use salt spray mixed with argon oil to add some volume!
Posted by Anka | February 28, 2013, 6:56 pmI have one – count it – one photo of me with short hair. Hubbs saw it and winced
Salt spray? Who knew? MJ
Posted by emjayandthem | March 1, 2013, 3:28 amYou tell ‘ em, sista! Seriously though, I too sport very long hair & am upset by those myths. I think I’m just proud of it the way it is. & My take on it is, whatever makes a person happy, as long as it’s not harming someone, go for it.
Posted by DaydreamsinWonderland | February 28, 2013, 7:38 pmOh, good, another woman who defies the age-cut off for long hair. Granted, I think people are more accepting of hair length past a certain age in the twenty-first century. But this wasn’t always the case. Especially in the 1950′s when most women wore their hair cropped and curled. Have a great weekend my friend!
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 8:26 amI could see that but yeah I do get stares a lot too for not doing the “trendy” layered thing you were talkin’ about. I only do that if I get a bad case of split ends or my hair drys out.
Have a pleasant weekend yourself, darling!
Posted by DaydreamsinWonderland | March 1, 2013, 9:08 amMy aunt only had her long hair cut off when she was in her late 60s/early 70s. And then she went super short. I’m in the >40 category and my hair is still long. Not sure if I’ll get to 60 though!
Posted by womaximum | February 28, 2013, 8:46 pmI agree, the sixties may be tough decade to pull off long hair. It’s not necessarily because of the age, but rather, because of the health factor. Hair, if worn long, should be in fairly good condition. Thanks for stopping by. Have a great weekend!
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 8:35 amI’m with you…LONG hair all the way! I get why women of a certain age cut it, for convenience factors and because is was tendy then, whatever. I personally think long hair keeps one looking younger. I think I’ve cut my hair short, and by short I mean to my chin twice. I instantly regretted it. I prefer to have it down to the middle of my back and plan on keeping it that way…forever. The other day, while sitting in church and noticing older women with the close cut “ol’ lady” do, asked me if women’s hair shrinks to that style when they get old. I think he’s worried my long locks would disappear one day. I reassured him that my hair isn’t going anywhere!
Posted by Kerry's Organized Chaos | February 28, 2013, 8:58 pmDid IP ask you that question in church? Perfectly reasonable question to ask. I’d rather be asked about the prospect of ‘old lady’ hair than if my boobs were going to grow back after I was done nursing. My girlfriend’s husband actually asked her this soon after giving birth to their second child.
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 8:22 amit’s funny you mention that now. My sister turned 40 two weeks ago and just chopped her hair off! It really suits her. She has the face for short, you know? Other than that, I really dig long hair and yes, very long hair not the medium long every woman on the planet has, the really, really long….So, go girl, keep it long!
Posted by wonderlandbytatu | February 28, 2013, 11:57 pmSome women really do look better with short hair. Your sister sounds like the perfect candidate. Believe me, if I think it suited me, I would’ve already cut my locks by now. But, I’m convinced I need the length to frame my face. Plus, my husband would go in to shock if he came home to a woman with short tresses! He’d probably say, “Who’s this imposter. Where’s my wife?”
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 8:41 amShort or long isn’t a big deal as long as it looks good on the person. I personally love the long! My wife has long, beautiful, and full black hair. Sometimes, she has it straight. Other times, full of tiny curls, but I love it!
Posted by We Are 2Fit2 Quit | March 1, 2013, 6:11 amWow! Your wife’s hair sounds gorgeous. My hubby is partial to women with dark black hair too. Unfortunately, it’s just not my natural hair color. At least I’ve got the long locks he likes!
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 8:32 amI’ve never seen a Victoria’s Secret model with short hair- maybe the long look is just more classically associated with “sexy”? As others commented, whatever makes the hair wearer feel happy and confident is the look she should rock. Short hair on my face is abysmal and my husband digs my waist length look. Other gals wear the pixie cut with sass and class. However, regardless of age, propriety or era, long, healthy hair is classic and timeless. We’re lucky to live in a time where anything goes and etiquette fashion of the past has mostly been tossed out the window, so all of us can do what we like best without expecting to have too much flack thrown our way in regards to “what’s proper”. Rock those long locks, mama! They’re gorgeous on you.
Posted by mombieconfessions | March 1, 2013, 6:45 amWow! Waist length hair, I’m sooo envious! If I’m anything, I’m realistic. While I would love to have hair that long it’s just not feasible. My hair is fine. And I hear you on the Victoria’s Secret models, their hair is super sexy. In fact, I think it’s a good cross between the 70′s feathered bangs and current hair trends. One of my fav’s is Alessandra Ambrosia!
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 2:54 pmSince I am 5 years away from 40 I haven’t really given this a lot of thought but, in a split second, I can tell you I won’t be cutting my hair off. Been there, did that, got pregnant (not related to the haircut), face puffed up and newly short hair framed it like, erm, a bloated balloon wearing a wig.
I am not sure long hair is age related so much as basically what suits you and makes you feel good. Having said that, my mum, who had short hair for as long as I can remember, tried to grow it long again as she had in her twenties, and on her older skin it made her look very sallow and ill.
Maybe it’s not so much about your age, as the age and vitality of your skin. Look after you, and your hair will look after itself. Erm? Maybe?
Posted by Piper George | March 1, 2013, 8:11 amAge should definitely NOT be considered a factor in determining hair length. Unlike the 1950′s when most women wore their hair short and neat. Feminism had yet to make an impact. But, I agree with you in terms of vitality of skin and hair. Both should be in fairly good condition. On a side note, I gotta hand it to you for being brave and cutting your hair off during pregnancy. I could never be so bold!
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 3:00 pmI could say so much on this subject so I’m going to keep it short. Short sassy hair looks amazing for about 2 hours after leaving the salon. Then the weather gets to it and everytime you go swimming, go for a jog or just plain go outside it frizzes up. I’ve lost count of the times I looked like a loo brush when I needed to pull off Halle Berry. My advice – keep it long til it feels wrong.
Posted by Nnena@NordicBLACK | March 1, 2013, 8:35 amI’m sure you still looked great with short hair. Your face is so beautiful! I love your catchy tagline, “keep it long till it feels wrong.” Definitely going to let that stew in my brain for a bit. Have a lovely weekend!
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 2:48 pmI agree – any shoulds and shouldn’ts are ridiculous. Guess what – I’m sooo much older than you and I’m just growing my hair long again. But then – of course I’m of the hippie generation
Posted by tiny lessons blog | March 1, 2013, 2:28 pmOh, you’re a woman after my own heart. Let it grow I say! I wonder what it must have been like growing up in the hippie generation. I really think I was born in the wrong era!
Posted by Anka | March 1, 2013, 2:45 pmFunny that you posted this now…I was preparing a blog on this very topic (it can wait!) I have long hair and always consider chopping it off when it becomes too difficult or too time-consuming to manage. I can never let it dry naturally if I want to be seen in public…LOL, but properly styled, I love it. I’m over 50…so are a lot of women with long hair who are considered attractive. Granted most of them have mega bucks for stylists but I’m enjoying my length for now. I manage the greys with touch-ups. Everyone likes it and says I shouldn’t cut it. Maybe I’ll reconsider when my arms can no longer reach out to brush or curl the ends! Thanks for the great article!
Posted by mmadonna1 | March 1, 2013, 7:21 pmYou should definitely write a post on this topic! Sounds like you have mastered the skill of beautiful tresses at any age. From what I’ve read on your blog, you’re also into fitness. I think you have the right combination for maintaining beauty on the inside as well as the outside. By the way, how is your last semester in school coming along? Are you nearing graduation?
Posted by Anka | March 3, 2013, 1:32 pmI didn’t read the other comments, so I don’t know if anyone covered this. Men absolutely prefer long hair and always have. Anyone that tells you otherwise is trying to trick you. Just don’t let it go down to your waist or anything stupid like that. Everything within reason of course.
Posted by Thoughts and Rants in Jogging Pants | March 1, 2013, 7:50 pmI can always count on you to tell it to me straight! I appreciate your honesty. As for growing my hair down to my waist, that would never happen. I’m not into Cher’s 1960′s look.
Posted by Anka | March 3, 2013, 8:16 amGeezum…. my comment is at the bottom here oh here. Lets see, I’m always happy to see long locks around. Us women, we struggle to take care of hair. Not just a quick flip and dry, but really, we work hard at having nice long hair. I’ve grown mine out even longer and I’m even over forty, (oops shh… ) Personally, I think men love long locks….especially taken care of hair. Anyway, no, I didn’t read all the comments either………. but, happily interestingly applauding anyway !!
Posted by mistymidnite | March 1, 2013, 8:39 pmEllie, you’re right. Women do spend a great deal of time trying to maintain healthy hair. I wish it was as simple as stepping out of the shower and calling it good. That’s why I love lounge days because I can just let my hair air dry. I hope you and the kids are doing well. I miss chatting with you. I’m sure the weather is just beautiful in Florida!
Posted by Anka | March 3, 2013, 8:20 amI have to go along with my male brethren above. I understand to practical benefits of shorter hair – less maintenance, children don’t yank on it – but long hair looks vibrant, joyful, sensual. Short hair can as well, but just as a blanket generalization.
Posted by The Byronic Man | March 2, 2013, 7:41 amLong hair does seem to be the consensus amongst the male brethren. It doesn’t surprise me. The thing that would surprise me, however, would be if the mullet made a comeback. The only place for a mullet is on SNL skits.
Posted by Anka | March 3, 2013, 8:23 amOh boy–where to start. First, as a woman in my 40′s, I say there is NO age limit on hair length–not ever. My hair is, was, and always has been a source of daily compliments for me–so if that’s bragging, kill me–and men absolutely adore it. I remember reading an article once in Cosmo (so, you know–true, of course) that a survey polled found 90% of men found long hair feminine.
I have never dyed my hair, nor permed it, nor do I blow dry it. It is as soft now, as it was in my 20′s, and the main trick to keeping beautiful long hair–is no female hairdressers! They always want to do the same effed up thing to your hair–as they did to theirs–because misery truly does love company!!
Your hair is gorgeous, Anka! As are you, and I say: keep that beautiful do!! I know I will be a silver fox when the time comes, and that is all there is to it. Or silver hippie–I’m not sure…
(my mom also cut my hair horribly short all my childhood, which I understand now–but didn’t then)
Great article…sign me–Rapunzel…:)
Posted by Charron's Chatter | March 4, 2013, 9:51 amI knew this would strike a chord with you, Charron. I’m not surprised that you receive that many compliments on your hair. I am surprised to learn that you’ve never dyed your hair–LUCKY lady! Interesting static that you found in Cosmo magazine. I believe it’s 100% true. Just think of all the Disney princesses . . . I don’t remember seeing one with short hair.
Come to think of it, maybe you should change your gravatar name to “Rapunzel.” It would be most fitting for your face and GORGEOUS hair!
Posted by Anka | March 4, 2013, 9:58 amSing it, sister! Women hairdressers always want to cut my hair (except for my current amazing one who loves the sexiness of it) but the men would never dream of it.
Posted by mylifeisthebestlife | March 25, 2013, 5:42 pm49 and still with long hair. Plan on keeping it that way. I can hardly wait for long gray hair, as short gray hair will look terrible …. we’ll be buying ponytail holders FOREVER!
Posted by Lisa Neumann | March 4, 2013, 10:29 amLisa, I can’t believe you’re 49!? You look amazing! Wow! I’m officially inspired me to keep my dresses well into my late forties and beyond. Guess I better invest in a stack of ponytail holders too!
Posted by Anka | March 4, 2013, 5:44 pmI’ve gone back and forth through the years with the length of my hair. Sometimes I’ve loved the short length and the freedom it provided. I currently have it long, and love it too. Right now, I can’t imagine cutting it. I think there are certain woman who possess the perfect facial features for a short cut. I’ve also seen women with long hair that doesn’t flatter them. I don’t see so much as an age thing. I think each woman just needs to go with what works best for their features, and what cut/length makes them feel the best! Great post! Very relatable…is that a word?
Posted by littlemisswordy | March 5, 2013, 8:35 amYou’re right, there are some women who look absolutely beautiful with short hair. The first that comes to mind is Halle Berry. I don’t think age should ever be a factor in determining hair length. But, there was a time, many decades ago where long hair after a certain age was frowned upon. Thankfully, in today’s society, people are more open and accepting of one another. And yes, “relatable” is a word. Though it shows up misspelled in the WP automatic spell checker. Go figure??
Posted by Anka | March 6, 2013, 4:30 pmI am sticking with long hair as long as I can get away with it -but only because I look like one long giraffe neck with my hair short!
Posted by LookingfortheSweetSpot | March 9, 2013, 8:01 amHa! Then you and I have something in common. My neck is very long too. Perhaps that’s why I always felt awkward wearing short hair. Sounds like you and I will be wearing long hair indefinitely!
Posted by Anka | March 24, 2013, 6:43 pmHello – I’ve just found your blog. I’m nearly 41 and not planning on cutting my hair anytime soon. Especially as my hair is really curly if I let it go that way; it’s not good short. Anyway I’m sure Audrey Hepburn had long hair when she was old. She stayed looking elegant and beautiful. Grey hair though? That’s another issue.
Posted by pfstare | March 24, 2013, 12:47 pmWow! Can I just say that you don’t look forty one! Your skin looks absolutely flawless. I’m glad you stopped by and shared your experience about wearing long hair. It certainly sounds like long hair is the norm for more and more women. As for grey hair, I refuse to let the silver/white hairs peek through. Fortunately, there are several quality chemical-free hair dyes on the market. I would be lost without them!
Posted by Anka | March 24, 2013, 6:47 pmAnka – you are my new best friend.
Posted by pfstare | March 26, 2013, 4:27 amWhy do you think Anderson Cooper can get away with a grey-white hair combination but others cannot?
Posted by blackwhite & snakeskin | March 25, 2013, 1:51 pmThat is an excellent question! I often wonder the same thing. In my mind, it comes to down to discrepancies between men and women. The issue of discrimination between the sexes and aging. Societal pressures for women to ‘appear’ young are reaching new heights with each passing year. I personally believe people should wear their hair however they feel most beautiful and comfortable!
Posted by Anka | March 25, 2013, 3:01 pmI just had to google him (I’m English). He is what my sister calls a ‘silver fox’
It’s not others generally is it, it’s men v women. Just about to write about it….
Posted by pfstare | March 26, 2013, 4:31 amYou’re right! Anderson Cooper is referred to as a ‘silver fox.’ Glad you decided to write a post on the discrepancies between men and women. I will try to stop by later and check it out. Right now, I’ve got my hands full with my three year old son!
Posted by Anka | March 26, 2013, 8:14 amThanks for the follow Anka – glad you found time to have a look. I know what 3 year old boys are like
Posted by pfstare | March 27, 2013, 2:46 amLong hair FOREVER!!! Mine is past my bra strap, too, and it’s not going anywhere!
Posted by mylifeisthebestlife | March 25, 2013, 5:40 pmAnita, I would expect nothing less from your sexy self. Long hair forever!!! My length isn’t going anywhere either. Even if, the new baby tugs and pulls on it!
Posted by Anka | March 26, 2013, 8:16 amI’ve always joked about what the magical age is when most women decide that it is a good idea to chop off all of their hair. It’s rare to find *ahem* older women with long hair. I find it amusing when I hear someone refer to shoulder-length hair as long. To me, even that is short. I’ve had my hair cut short a couple of times, and each time I have instantly regretted it and missed it dearly. Two years ago I had it cut short (shoulder length), and although it was nice to not have to use as much shampoo and conditioner, and not spend as much time drying and styling it, I am so glad it is long again. It’s also my experience that most men love and prefer long hair. They smell it, rub it, lay in it, and rub their fingers through it. To answer your question, I don’t think there is a magic age. When I hit 40 I will not be celebrating with a chop. It’s going to take something major for me to ever chop it again.
Posted by Michelle Frost | April 25, 2013, 11:45 amYay! I’m not the only who thinks shoulder length hair ISN’T constituted as long. I also agree with your take on men and their preference of long hair. Longer hair frames a woman’s face in such a way that appears more sensual and playful. As for not chopping your hair anytime soon, I’ll second that decision. Like you, when I turn forty, I have no intention of cutting off my locks.
Posted by Anka | April 25, 2013, 8:18 pm