It’s no secret the male ego is fragile. To make matters worse their egos take a hit when we say things that drive them crazy. Maybe it’s time to cut men some slack. Let’s start by NEVER saying these three things to a guy again. Don’t worry ladies, we’ll get our day of reckoning. To be fair, this post will be followed by ten things you should never say to a woman. For now, it’s about the men. Feel free to add to the list:
1. “Do you think she’s pretty?” Of course he does! Stop asking. Men aren’t that critical when it comes to assessing beauty. Just because they appreciate the ENTIRE female species doesn’t mean your guy thinks any less of you. When an attractive woman walks by, let it slide and pretend you don’t even notice.
2. “Nothing’s wrong.” Men don’t believe us when we say NOTHING is wrong. Nine times out of ten the look on our face gives it away. Men are not mind readers. We need to tell them exactly what’s bothering us. Leaving it open to interpretation could be dangerous.
3. “My dad can fix that. You should call him.” Even if dear old dad is one of the most skilled plumbers and has the ultimate tool kit, don’t rub it in your man’s face. Indulge your guy and let him fix that leaky faucet. The added bonus is you get to watch your man sweat.
In an effort to stop driving my guy nuts, I’m going to hush about the things that annoy him. I’m also going to practice speaking to him in a different tone. A SWEETER tone. After a five minute conversation with the ‘new’ me, he’ll be convinced that the words dripping from my lips are like honey. An ideal way to ignite the fire, right? The only problem is I’m not THAT sentimental.
I am a cynical idealist at my core. Better translated as I’m lacking in the romance department. For me, less is typically MORE. This means I’m not in the habit of setting the mood for love. I’d rather dig my toes between the sand than sit in a restaurant dripping in red roses, candlelight, and cascading linens. But because I’m a firm believer in change and open to exploring new ideas, I am up for the challenge.
So, during the month of February I am dedicating my blog to all things LOVE. The only catch is that I need your help. I need some ideas on how to be romantic. Perhaps I can write a post on “The Best Love Songs or Most Romantic Movies of All Times.” Maybe that will inspire me. Whatever the topic, it has to be something I can relate to. Nothing like “Obsessive Office Crushes,” which is currently featured on the cover of Cosmo. I’ll save my commentary on glossy magazines and their ineffectiveness for another time.
Today, let’s think of ways to FAN THE FLAME shall we. Men, it could be as simple as not shaving your stubble. I love my man’s rugged facial hair. Ladies, for us, it could be changing out of our less than desirable yoga pants. The point is having KIDS should not get in the way of passion. Certainly there are ways to break up the monotony.
Do you keep the ROMANCE alive? Or, are you failing miserably?